Today we’d like to introduce you to Kamia Hayes.
Hi Kamia, can you start by introducing yourself? We’d love to learn more about how you got to where you are today?
After being involved in an abusive relationship, I was in a really low place. I was raising 3 children in a single-parent household and barely making ends meet. One of things that I would stress during my healing process was that I wasn’t going through that situation for no reason. I began to get serious about my healing and went really deep so that I could understand why I kept being attracted to the wrong type of men.
I grew up in a 2-parent household, so one would think that I should’ve made better choices. After about 10 years of “doing my work,” I made the decision to help other women identify toxic habits so that they could heal as well. Although I found fulfillment in helping other women, I still felt like an imposter. You see, I suffer from Alopecia and I felt like I was a slave to wigs and weaves. It was so bad that I would feel sick to my stomach if I didn’t have my hair done.
In 2018, I decided to stop hiding and cut my hair. I was super nervous so I told one friend, my hairstylist, and the photographer. I was so afraid to actually cut my hair that I knew that if anyone close to me would tell me not to, I probably wouldn’t have. (I didn’t even tell my husband that I was going to do it.) We documented to process and I sent a photo to everyone close to me prior to uploading the photos to social media. The support was overwhelming and it was one of the best decisions that I could’ve made. Not only did my story inspire women who deal with alopecia, it also helped me so that I could be my authentic self.
Can you talk to us a bit about the challenges and lessons you’ve learned along the way? Looking back would you say it’s been easy or smooth in retrospect?
Definitely hasn’t been a smooth road. I mean if anyone tells you that their journey has been easy, there’s something missing from the equation, the truth.
My biggest struggle has been believing in myself. I’ve always been an out-of-the-box thinker. I am a student of life and can literally learn life lessons from anywhere. Ideas normally come to me easily. My mentor has called me an anomaly in the past. The problem with being an anomaly is that people don’t understand your vision. It’s something that hasn’t been seen or done before, so when I’d share with coaches or colleagues, they’d discourage me.
I had to get to a point where I knew exactly WHO I was and embrace what makes me different. I also had to let go of the guilt that I would experience when I would have times when I would fall into the same hole that I would help dig my coaching clients out of which is mindset. I got that aha moment when a woman explained to me that I will always struggle with mindset because that is my ministry. It is like the Apostle Paul in the Bible. He had a thorn in his side. We never knew what the thorn was, but we knew why it was. The thorn kept him humble. Mindset is my thorn that keeps me humble. I am able to help my clients because I am the blueprint, and that is what makes me relatable.
Thanks – so what else should our readers know about Kamia Hayes?
At by Kamia Hayes, we offer a host of services that are all centered around changing the way you think so that you can have the confidence to go after the life of your dreams.
I started my business as a makeup artist and quickly realized that I am more than just an artist, so I transitioned to coaching. Although I am “retired” from makeup artistry, I service clients every now and then. Women reach out to me for one of three reasons. 1. They need help with accomplishing goals. 2. They want their makeup done or want to learn how to apply their own makeup. 3. They need help with their wardrobe.
This is how I developed my 3 Pillars of Ultimate Confidence which are internal Fulfillment, Mental Makeup, and Identity.
In working with women from all walks of life, I realized that no matter how I’m working with her, there is a lack of confidence and mindset blocks that has to be overcome in order to manifest results.
I am the author of Makeup Your Mind which is a 31 Day Devotional and Journal that combines my love of makeup and mindset with life application, biblical principles, and affirmations. It’s actually pretty amazing. I like to call it the playbook to an elevated mindset. It is great to do alone or in a group setting and I offer a group coaching cohort every other month.
One of the things that I focus on is transformation. There are a lot of people out there that are hosting women’s empowerment events, coaching programs, and a lot of other things, but they only address the problem without providing any solutions. I use my 3-step system (1. Identify 2. Address 3. Now What?!) when mapping out my services and this is what makes me different than most.
I love beautiful things. In the past, I have gotten lost in the details of it all. One day I realized that people go to nice restaurants for the main course, not the side items and I made a promise to myself that I was going to focus more on providing “the meat” because everything else is bells and whistles.
What makes you happy?
I am a wife and mother of 6. What makes me most happy is my family. When I met my husband, I was a mother of 3 (A-Team), and we have 3 children together (B Team). It’s been great watching my A-Team grow into strong, smart, and independent adults, while I have the privilege of really slowing down and paying attention to my B Team develop their personalities and their own little quirks. I like to think that God gave me a do-over at parenting so that I can sit back and enjoy watching my babies grow.
Another thing that makes me happy is walking in purpose. It’s an amazing feeling to get a download for a fresh idea for me or a client. It brings me so much joy to know that I am making an impact.
Pricing:
- Makeup Your Mind 31-Day Devotional/Journal $14.99
- Pretty on Purpose Teen Journal $9.99
- Group Coaching starts at $247.00
Contact Info:
- Email: info@bykamiahayes.com
- Website: www.bit.ly/BKH-LINKS
- Instagram: www.instagram.com/bykamiahayes
- Facebook: www.facebook.com/bykamiahayes
Image Credits
Kayla Smith Photography
