Victoria Dume shared their story and experiences with us recently and you can find our conversation below.
Good morning Victoria, we’re so happy to have you here with us and we’d love to explore your story and how you think about life and legacy and so much more. So let’s start with a question we often ask: What makes you lose track of time—and find yourself again?
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Can you briefly introduce yourself and share what makes you or your brand unique?
I’m a guide, educator, and space holder for women who are ready to stop living in survival mode and start living from a place of alignment, safety, and self-trust. My work sits at the intersection of nervous system regulation, subconscious reprogramming, embodiment, and conscious creation, because real transformation doesn’t happen just by “thinking positive” or pushing harder. It happens when the body feels safe enough to change.
Through my programs and our live immersion events, I help women break free from limiting patterns around worth, relationships, money, and self-expression. What makes my work unique is that I don’t separate personal growth from the nervous system or the body. We work somatically, intentionally, and sustainably, so growth doesn’t feel like another thing to hustle for, it feels like coming home to yourself.
At the heart of everything I create is the belief that when women feel regulated, resourced, and deeply connected to themselves, they naturally show up more powerfully in their lives, relationships, and work. Right now, I’m especially focused on creating immersive experiences and community-driven spaces that help women integrate this work in real life, not just learn it, but live it.
Amazing, so let’s take a moment to go back in time. What was your earliest memory of feeling powerful?
My earliest memory of feeling truly powerful was the first time I was invited to give a mindset and motivational talk to a room of about 100 people. The moment I stepped into the front of the room something in me clicked. It wasn’t about performance, it was about connection. I could feel the room respond, not just listening to my words, but feeling them.
Afterward, people came up to me and shared how deeply moved they were, how something I said landed exactly where they needed it to. In that moment, I saw my inner gifts reflected back to me. I realized that my voice had the ability to create inspiration and possibility for others. That experience made it clear to me that speaking and hosting spaces wasn’t just something I enjoyed, it was something I was meant to do.
Was there ever a time you almost gave up?
Yes, many times. Honestly, I feel like giving up almost every year, sometimes even twice a year. And I’ve learned I’m not alone in that. What I’ve come to understand is that the urge to quit is rarely about failure, it’s usually fear. Fear of what’s on the other side of continuing. Fear of success, expansion, or being seen at a bigger level.
Sometimes that feeling is also information. It’s a signal that something is out of alignment and asking for reflection rather than force. Instead of pushing through or judging myself for wanting to stop, I’ve learned to go inward and ask: What’s at the root of this? What is this season asking of me?
I don’t believe emotions are good or bad, they’re communication. Even the thought of quitting has wisdom in it if we’re willing to sit with it, listen, and work through it with compassion. For me, those moments have become guides, not stop signs. They help me realign, recommit, or evolve, rather than walk away from what truly matters.
So a lot of these questions go deep, but if you are open to it, we’ve got a few more questions that we’d love to get your take on. Is the public version of you the real you?
It depends on which “public” version you’re talking about. There’s the social media version of me, and there’s the live, in-the-room version, and they’re both real, just expressed differently.
Online, you probably get the most unfiltered version of me. I don’t aim for perfect lighting, perfect grammar, or perfectly curated feeds. I’m not attached to aesthetics or grids, I care more about being real. If I refine something, it’s usually with the help of AI tools, which I love, but the message itself is always mine. Social media feels like a space where I can show up as myself without polishing away my humanity.
In live settings, like events or speaking engagements, my energy naturally shifts. I’m more aware of the room, how my words are being received, and how different people may interpret what I’m saying. Sometimes that awareness means I hold parts of myself back, especially when I don’t want to offend or make people uncomfortable with a deeper truth I feel called to share.
That said, none of these versions are inauthentic. They’re all expressions of the real me, shaped by context. I think authenticity isn’t about being the same everywhere, it’s about staying honest with yourself in every space you enter.
Thank you so much for all of your openness so far. Maybe we can close with a future oriented question. What is the story you hope people tell about you when you’re gone?
I want to be remembered as someone who didn’t just teach growth, but lived it. Someone who walked alongside others with honesty, depth, and compassion, and who showed women that their power wasn’t something to earn or hustle for it was something to remember and embody.
I also hope I’m remembered as someone who deeply loved community, who believed in open-mindedness, collaboration, and the magic that happens when unique people, cultures, ideas, and creativity come together. Someone who created spaces that were not only healing and expansive, but fun, alive, and full of connection. Spaces where people felt welcomed, inspired, and free to be themselves.
Contact Info:
- Website: https://www.fueledbygratitude.org
- Instagram: @your_gratitudecoach & @fueled_by_gratitude
- Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/victoria.evedume
Image Credits
Margie Dotson of Marando Studios
